One of the biggest complaints I hear from parents, and one I had to work through myself, is kids’ arguing over every little thing.
You ask your son to pick up his clothes off the bathroom floor and he launches into a series of questions like “Can I do it later?”, or “Why do I have to do that now?”, or he points out that his sister's room has clothes all over the floor, or he says he doesn't feel good, and on and on and on.
Eventually, you get fed up, raise your voice and shout "Just do it! Why do I have to repeat things over and over to you?!!!!" Your son burst into tears and stalks off, you feel guilty, and there goes your mood.
Do your kids sometimes bend your ear about a subject in which you really have no interest? I’m probably getting a yes from everyone.
An Easy 5-Step Process That Promotes Learning
This subject came about from my listening to Tony Robbins’ book called “Unlimited Power.” If you haven’t ever listened, it is a treat, not to mention really full of valuable information.
In the course of the program, Tony talks about how we view failure, and how that view becomes a stumbling block to progress. He suggests that instead of using the word failure, we should substitute the word “results” or “outcomes.”
How You Can Use It to Improve Their Behavior and Make Your Life Better
I recently began seeing a 14-year-old teen (I'll call her Jeannie) in weekly psychotherapy. She was brought in by her parents who reported that she is negative, complains constantly, becomes sullen or angry when corrected, bad mouths her peers, is argumentative, and unhappy.
Too much of the wrong attention, and too little of the right attention, can create a child that feels entitled, steps over other’s people’s feelings, needs to constantly be rescued, expects different rules than everyone else, and in spite of everything you give, still seems to be dissatisfied and unhappy. I’m describing a Narcissist, or what eventually becomes during adulthood, a Narcissistic Personality.